When I was a kid, I struggled with math. I never could master long division, let alone algebra. I wasn't the only one; every few years or so it seemed, the educators that be would conjure up a new and improved way of adding 1+1 called The New Math. Over the course of my years as a frustrated student, The New Math would rear its shiny head, complete with new rules, new algorithms and new confusions. It occurred to me when I was putting this issue of Connect together that The New Family is sort of like The New Math. Just what does it take to be a family in 2013? What is the new normal, anyway?
I don't know about you, but I think the new normal is a lot like our country. A patchwork of lots of different types of people, lots of different types of cultures, yet lots of the one constant that holds all different kinds of families together - love. Whether you're a family of two or ten, this month's Connect celebrates families of all shapes, sizes and origins, and the love that holds them together.
Here's to hopeful moms and dads, sweethearts and surrogates, donors and grandparents and the best friends who love us fiercely. Here's to grandparents who change diapers, aunts, uncles and cousins who lend us the down payment, and our children, especially, our much-worked-for children, may they live, thrive and flourish.
Here's to family in all its glorious forms.
Happy Valentine's Day to my AFA family. And happy reading -
Corey Whelan, The AFA Editor
Single Fathers Raising, Caring For and Talking to Pre-Teen Daughters About Their Bodies
by Lisa Marsh
Yes, all you single and gay dads out there, you'll need to talk to your daughter about getting her first period, not to mention her first bra. Wondering what to say about sex? If so, Lisa Marsh's advice is a must-read for you..
Before you ask your best friend from college if he wants to donate sperm to you and your partner, do me a favor and please read this fact sheet. Here's the straight scoop on medical and legal information you should be aware of if you want to conceive quickly and build your family safely. Can you say Marotta?
Reproductive Science Center of the San Francisco Bay Area
Center for Male Reproductive Medicine
Cornell Center for Male Reproductive Medicine
Family Formation Law Offices of Diane Michelsen
Fertility Source Companies
Heartfelt Egg Donation
International Fertility Law Group
Joni Mantell, L.C.S.W.
Madison Women's Health & Fertility, PC
Pacific Reproductive Center
Pacific Reproductive Services Sperm Bank & Fertility Center
Piedmont Reproductive Endocrinology Group
Silvia Schneider Fox, Psy.D.
The Law Office of Judith A. Hoechst
Tree Of Life Acupuncture
Windy Ezell, M.A., L.P.C.
The AFA's Event Calendar
There are events taking place across the country to help educate and support you on your family building journey. Please take a look through our calendar to find classes, discussion groups, workshops and emotional support groups on infertility, adoption, third party reproduction and LGBT family building.
To learn about all of The AFA's support groups, including those for Mind/Body and Over 40 issues,click here.