by Merry Armentrout
This Father’s Day I thought I would share some advice with all of you from my own amazing father who is fighting his own personal battle right now. My dad’s mantra is “never quit”. I’ve heard this saying my whole life, especially during the hard times when quitting was all I wanted to do. Those two words truly helped shape me into who I am today. It’s easy to give up, take the easy way out and especially to not even try. Taking risks means setting yourself up to possibly fail- and hopefully succeed.
That’s the second lesson my dad taught me- don’t be afraid to fail. If you’re afraid to fail than you’re afraid to try. Trying can equate into something as simple as a new hobby or something bigger- like a new career, a new relationship, or trying to start a family. Reality has proven that some people will fail when trying to have children. This is a harsh reality, but something we must acknowledge and accept. Luckily, if you’re willing to try and fail, than you’re most likely aren’t willing to give up easily.
It takes perseverance and patience to deal with infertility and family building. There are financial, physical and emotional obstacles which make quitting seem come to the forefront of you mind. As my dad told me, “never quit”, I’m telling you not to give up on your dream of becoming parents. Whether you’re going through a third infertility treatment or in the midst of the adoption process, there are so many people who want to see you succeed- including The AFA.
And that leads me into the third lesson my father taught me which was not to be afraid to ask for help. TheAFA.org is filled with information and resources to help you build the family of your dreams. If you can’t find what you’re looking for on the website, you can submit your own question to one of the staff members.
We’re all fighting our own battles right now. This Father’s Day I’m reminded of the importance of perseverance and how two small words can have such a large impact on any situation. Never quit.