AFA Discussion Forum

Single with PCOS wanting to conceive

2010-02-14T22:19:59Z

I’m an umarried woman with a partner in the military. I am forced by DADT to continue to label myself single, even with my doctors, for my partner’s professional safety. We want to have a baby soon because waiting until she’s out of the military is undesirable to us both. It’s impossible to know when she’ll be out because of her deployment schedule. So I will continue to publically label myself as single until it happens.

So not only will I need articial insemination but I have PCOS and desire fertility drugs to help ensure pregnancy during insemination. Finding a doctor that will be able and willing to do both in the state of Georgia is next to impossible, whether I present myself as single or with a partner.

I also found on the HRC website that Georgia’s insemination laws discriminate against both GLBT and single women. So I think I might have to cross state lines for a doctor.

“Georgia law only takes into consideration the use of the donor insemination procedure by married couples.

The law presumes children conceived by artificial insemination are born to married couples. Both spouses must have consented in writing to the use and administration of the procedure.”

How do I go about finding a doctor that’s willing to assist us? What should our first steps be? And I’m currently comparing health insurance companies. Is there something I should look for in a company or plan? Any guidance at all would be greatly appreciated.

lesbians trying to conceive

2009-06-07T13:25:13Z

I am married (in CA) to my partner and I have already conceived a child via IUI and he is now almost 3 years old. My partner and I would like to have a child together and I truly enjoyed my first pregnancy. She would like to have a child that is genetically related to her, but has no desire to carry a child. Is there a possibility for us to use her egg and donor sperm and having the embryo implanted in me? If so, what type of costs would this involve? Is there anyone in Austin, TX that would do this?

Thanks in advance for your help.

single parent sex discrimination

2008-12-09T16:28:13Z

I have known more than one woman, who wanted to parent, have sex and keep the pregnancy. Furthermore, one of them forced the father to financially support the baby by legal threat. Is there a means by which a man may control his own fate in such a way as long as he finds a surrogate? This would imply that the surrogate would not be able to cross examine the father as to how he plans to raise a baby.
Thank you,
John

Young Men/Aspiring Parents

2008-08-04T12:40:54Z

I am wondering what advice you might have for young gay men, both single and in relationships, who aspire to one day be parents. The social and psychological strain, I imagine, is rather tough.

Welcome to The AFA Discussion Forum

2008-08-07T19:03:14Z

Hi, this is Melinda. I’ve been with the AFA for 11 years and have personally experienced infertility and know how difficult it can be without a place to turn for support and education. This forum is for you ~ a place to ask all those questions you can’t ask anywhere else and have them answered by our Web Angels ~ some of the best professionals in the field.

I want to thank all of you for viewing and posting. For those of you who haven’t yet posted, please do so. The questions that are on your mind are probably on the minds of dozens of others. Go ahead, post. Our Web Angels are standing by. I bet you will helping others while helping yourself.

Thanks again for stopping by!
Melinda

support for lesbians

2008-08-11T10:14:52Z

Most of the information that I see on family building and parenting seems like it’s for gay men. Are there resources out there that specifically address lesbians who are hoping to start a family? Thank you.

Egg Donation Numbers

2008-08-05T09:18:59Z

Egg donations are obviously needed in the LGBT community. I keep reading all of this information about how the number of egg donations is going up, as women need some extra money because of the sluggish economy. Is this really going on? If so, could this actually be good for the current demand for egg donors? Maybe this isn’t really going on and it’s just the media making something out of nothing.

Egg Donors

2008-08-08T14:18:03Z

There seems to be a strong push lately for sperm and egg donors to disclose their identity. It seems like times are changing compared to several years ago when this all first started. It also seems like there’s a lot of uncertainty over whether this is a good idea. Will we start to see more of this from agencies and fertilty doctors?

Volunteers Needed for The AFA Family Matters Conference

2008-09-15T12:37:17Z

Would you like to volunteer for a good cause? Are you planning on starting a family? If you are interested in Volunteering at the AFA Conference, please contact Dana Kelly at Dana_Kelly at hotmail dot com. If you volunteer, the admission charge is waived. Here is some information regarding the conference:

New York Family Matters - Infertility and Adoption Conference

Date: Sunday, October 5th, 2008 at Steiner Studios, in the Brooklyn Navy Yard

New York Family Matters is an all day educational event geared towards the needs of all people who wish to have a family. Egalitarian in nature, all three concurrent educational tracks will focus on the needs of couples, singles and the lgbt community. Panels, lectures and small round table discussions will cover topics such as in vitro fertilization, egg freezing, adoption, pcos, surrogacy, ovum and sperm donation, and much, much more.